Wednesday, September 5, 2012

I Hate Staying Home

Since I'm on the bench I decided to take some time off and stay home with the baby to save a little bit on the day care costs. Well let me tell you, I HATE staying home. I miss my life, my work, going out for lunch and talking to adults. To all you SAHM's out there, how do you do it!? Why would you want to do it?! I love the little baby but there's nothing fun when they scream or need their diapers changed.

Someone forgot to tell me that babies no longer sleep during the day when they reach 6 months of age. Our little baby requires constant attention. My day was feed, play, change, feed, play, change. We have all the jumpers, gyms and toys but by 10 AM I was ready to scream. By noon I had gone through four baby outfits and 3 bibs and I still hadn't eaten any lunch or showered. Today I learned I have no patience and if my wife ever wants a divorce she can have full custody LOL.

Dear wife- I didn't realize how hard you have worked for the past six months. As soon as the baby came I took off one week and then went back to work. You stayed home with the baby and I remember a few times you told me you had a bad day but believe me, now I understand. I'm not sure if my day was bad but OMG!

Tomorrow the plan is to call my mom or mother in law. I'm sure someone wants to see the little one :) Top priority is also to find work as soon as possible, day care is totally worth the cost.

HS

11 comments:

  1. Its very hard work, but you are daddy and sometimes you are gonna be the one to be watch her.

    It kinda upset me to see you say you'd give your wife full custody. Thats half of you and the child didn't ask to be bright into this world. She needs both parents. Hope you were kidding.

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  2. First off....babies at 6 months should be taking 2 naps a day!!!

    Second, being a SAHM (or Dad), is very challenging. But the longer you do it, you get better at the balance of things. When my kids were little....yes, there were days I didn't get a shower until they were in bed for the night.

    But instead of focusing on what you are missing...take the time to enjoy this week. Take her to the park and put her on a swing. Go for a walk. Check the library....many have playgroups that are for the under 1 year crowd.

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  3. Rhi, I put a LOL at the end of that statement ;)

    Very true, I only mentioned the negatives but we did have a great time playing and just hanging out..

    HS

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  4. I have soo been there. My hubby worked 12 rotating shifts, and lotsa mandatory overtime. He always seemed to be working or sleeping days. And I didn't have a mom or a mother in law available.

    At 6 mos yeh, they need constant amusement, and only nap about 45 mins at a time. Why don't you put her in a bouncy chair on the floor at the bathroom door, and play peek a boo with her to grab a shower? Or there's always naptime.

    My survival tactic was to get out of the house. Because it's so hot here, I put my son in a stroller and walked (NOT SHOPPED) the mall. Leave your credit and debit cards at home!! Go visit people. Get one of those things that covers the germy shopping cart cover and do the weekly grocery run, with your pre-planned menu!

    They keys to survival are routine, and getting out.

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  5. Oh, and if you're just at home, just leave her in a onesie or t shirt and diaper. Much less cleanup.

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  6. I find your story inspiring. I am in my twenties and my wife and have been married 2 years and we are both educators with a lot of debt.

    I would love it if you would check out our blog to provide some insight for us and strategies you have used to pay off debt. The link to our blog is passingthroughdebt.blogspot.com

    Thanks for your work.

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  7. It is hard, i just returned to work after 8 weeks home with a newborn and a three year old. Most public libraries have a baby time, which is wonderful and fun!Look and see if yours do and GO! Don't make excuses. There are other dads in the group and it is a great way to learn methods to engage with your baby.

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  8. Haha! This post is pretty honest. I was home for 6 weeks when Baby Girl was born and by the end of it, I was fairly ready to get back to work. As a mom, there is always mixed emotions. I cried thinking of not seeing her every day, but when I got back into the groove at work, I realized how much I had missed adults and conversations that didn't revolve around poop, spit-up, and a million onesie changes.

    As I told one of my co-workers the other day who also has a little one at home, being a working mom gives you a break from the kid so that you actually LOVE every minute you do get to be with them.

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  9. Being a SAHM mom/dad is HARD, and I applaud anyone who can do it full time. I work 4 days week, 9 hrs/day... and it's a good balance of work life and baby time.

    Also, have you checked out troublesometots.com ? It's a great sleep resource - at 6 months, she should really be sleeping 2-3 good naps each day. I figured out that I was waiting too long to put her down (letting her stay up 3-4 hrs at that point instead of 2-3 hrs max) and once I started putting her down sooner for naps, she slept better and longer. Good luck!

    I'm glad you got to get a taste of what your wife does all day. Sometimes it's hard to verbalize what you "did" all day, but when you're in the middle of it, you realize how all encompassing those kiddos are!!

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  10. OMG - you truly are the most selfish person in the world.

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  11. It IS hard but it gets better as they get older and communicate. Just play with her and enjoy it because they grow up way too fast and it's over.

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