Sunday, March 11, 2012

Preeclampsia and Pregnancy

Well we are now in full 'preeclampsia' mode with the wife. I don't want to go in to a lot  of details but basically we're trying to keep her pregnant as long as we can. Her new home is the hospital and she's slowly adjusting to the new life. My life is also a bit crazy right now. I'm dealing with the stressful job, keeping up with house stuff, putting together a nursery and running back and forth from home to hospital to take care of the dog.


Since this a debt blog let's talk money. I already made a payment for $1,100 dollars to cover the labor and delivery. I was not expecting a long term stay at the hospital so here I am crossing my fingers that we don't get all kinds of bills. The last EOB I saw was for $4,800 dollars for one night stay at the hospital. Let's just say now I'm hoping to meet our out of pocket maximum so the plan pays all benefits at 100% TGFI.

If you are new to the blog, here's a short version of why I'm writing this post. Back in 2007 we started trying to have a baby. Like most couples we had it all planned but didn't succeed. We did the infertility stuff for a year and the usual IUI's and we still didn't succeed. We did one cycle of IVF and put in two embryos. The longest two weeks went by and we had a positive. You would think it all ends when you get a positive pregnancy test? No! Then we did the roller coaster thing with HCG levels, up and down every day for two weeks. More ultrasounds, more blood... around 8 weeks we got to see and hear the heartbeat. It was more of a relief than joy or happiness. After that things went very well until December when we started seeing wife's blood pressure numbers go up. If  you google preeclampsia you can find out more (I refuse to read stuff at this point) so that's where we are now, seven months in to the pregnancy. Another hurdle? another bump on the road? another mile? Not sure what to call it at anymore...

We are having a little baby girl! All I can say now is we didn't come this far for setbacks! I'm ready to see and meet my baby girl! It could be tomorrow, it could next week or next month but I'm ready. 

HS

11 comments:

  1. Deep breathes for everyone.

    Ah wow! Crazy how things change in a bling of an eye.

    I'll be praying for both you and your wife but especially that baby girl. Prayers for her to stay in there as long as possible.

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  2. My first piece of advice...is you need to take care of YOU. The hospital is taking care of Mrs. and Baby. But they both need you....so you need to make sure you are eating, sleeping, etc.

    Second, as I am sure they have told you, the only "cure" for preeclampsia is delivery. They are going to weigh your wife's health vs baby. They may have already done the steroid shots for the baby's lung...the flip side to those is that they can actually cause labor.

    The positive of all of this....at 28 weeks gestation, you have a 96% of having a baby that when all is said and done...is just fine. You have already passed that milestone. Even if you do end up with NICU stay...it will be short lived, and most likely just for growth.

    I have already been down this road, and I will tell you freaking out won't help.

    As for the money...don't even think about it. Your wife and daughter's health is worth it. You won't care what the cost is.

    My kids bill was 1.5 Million. We didn't pay all of that. But it took 8 years to pay what we did. And I would do it all again.

    You ALL will be ok.

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  3. Thanks Rhi!

    Misty- yes all done! we are in waiting mode, thanks for all the advice! and yes not worried about the money right now but since we have debt blogs it's always in the back of my mind lol

    HS

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  4. I have not been down that path Mysti has, but I worked for an OB that dealt with high risk pregnancies. You need to take care of you so you can be there for your new daughter. Thoughts and prayers for you.

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  5. The money will work out. Babies have a way of making your forget what all you went through to have them. It's a good thing that she's in the hospital and being monitored.

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  6. My prayers are with you. I am sure everything will be okay and really the money won't matter when you hold that new little girl.

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  7. Wow!! You guys have been through so much to get your little girl. It'll just make her all that much more special when she arrives.

    At least your wife is in good hands and can be monitored 24/7. All will be well.

    Take care, Mr HS. We're all wishing you and the wife and the baby the very best!!! :-) Hang in there. The best is yet to come.

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  8. Praying for the rest of the pregancy to be uneventful, and for a safe delivery.

    My mom was in the hospital 21 times while pregnant with me, it took her 19 years to pay off the hospital bill, but she says it was worth it.

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  9. Keep us updated! I will keep you in my prayers, and I'm excited you're having a girl. I would say I can't wait to see a pic, but I guess waiting is exactly what you're trying to do! Take care of yourself and your family. And I would say spending a hundred bucks to have someone clean the house before she comes home might be worth it.

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  10. Do not worry about the nursery at all. It doesn't need to be perfect. Take care of yourself and your wife. I'm praying for you guys.

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  11. Congratulations, HS. Best wishes for you and your family.

    ~Kelly@ Happy Texans
    Bye

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