This month we added close to $1,500 more to credit card debt. I'll try to have numbers out next month but at this rate we continue adding debt and not going down as planned. Below are the 3 charges that added up to $1,500:
What bothers me the most is that we have a 70% chance that this will not work. Part of me knows that this will not work. I don't know what to think, how would you feel about spending $1500 on something like this?
Also, here's a good article that makes me think twice about all this: This is from a blog on Wall Street Journal:
We hear about fertility treatments when they're successful. But for millions of women, they mean regret, heartbreak, shame and silence: My Fertility Crisis
HS
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If you go into it with the attitude it won't work...then it won't. You have to be cautiously optimistic. If it doesn't work, you can't say...well that was money down the drain (even though we have all done it).
I can't even tell you how many times I started a cycle, and it stalled out around day 11. A vial of meds "wasted." This probably happened 10 times....
I really get the feeling you didn't want to do this. Did you and Mrs. HS decide how many cycles you are willing to do?
This whole thing is taking a toll on us... we're not really sure what we want or why we are doing all this :(
$1500 hurts.. and if this is a wasted cycle I'm not sure what we are going to do, she can't really get back in there when school is in session for ultrasounds and blood work and we don't really have the money unless of course things on Citi..
HS
Don't look at this IVF attempt as a waste if it doesn't work - look at it as doing everything you can to make your dream of having children a reality. If it ends up that it doesn't work out, you won't have any regrets when you're older, that you didn't try when you could have.
Good luck!
Mom- very true.. at least we can tell people we tried....
I know for us....at one point, it became more about beating infertility. It wasn't about wanting a baby, it was about being able to get pregnant.
I had to stop for a cycle due to cysts and it gave me time to decide if I really wanted a BABY, or did I just want to conquer IF. It turned out I wanted a BABY.
I had a fabulous cycle...and almost didn't do IUI because of the cost, and my friend talked me into doing IUI. She said if you had such a great cycle, and then didn't do EVERYTHING I could to make it work, then I would regret it. So I did the IUI (even though we didn't have the money). And I got pregnant with twins...and the complication of a molar triplet. This was my pregnancy I lost in 2007.
It is ok to admit that you really don't want a child for whatever your reasons. It is better to admit, than bring a child into the world just because of status, society says you are supposed to, or just to say you beat IF.
Mysti, you are actually one of the reasons I keep beliving things will work- so glad I found you!!
I really want a baby... I want to be a parent. I'm ready! I want this to happen!!
HS
My first set of twins will be 9 next month....
If this is what you really want...then go for it. Just know where the line in the sand is of how far you are willing to go. And remember, this journey is more about making a family than making a baby.
There are LOTS of ways to make a family. You may not want to entertain those options, but they are there.
I already have the dog, I don't want another puppy LOL
HS
Mysti is right. You need the right attitude to be successful. Just like trying to get out of debt. It is all about attitude.
I'm sure the cost is overwhelming, but don't lose hope! My sister spent years trying to get pregnant, and just when she was starting to think it wouldn't happen, she tried a different medicine and was pregnant on the first cycle. Obviously I can't swear that will happen for you and your wife, but you never know.
Infertility is hard. And expensive. But if you both truly want a baby, this is the best money you could ever spend. Crossing my fingers for you both!
good luck - friends of ours had a total of 8 cycles and ended up having 2 children (separate - not multiple births)
stay positive
You have a 30% chance of this working. Focus on waht you want instead of what you don't want.
I feel like you're just burying your head deeper in the sand. Why would you want to bring a child into this mess?
Is IVF your only option? Did they totally rule out IUI's? I just wonder if you could start with a less invasive and expensive treatment.
I agree with everyone else, you need to go in with a positive attitude. Infertility sucks, it is emotionally draining as well as financially draining, but if having a baby is your goal, it is all worth it.
It is easy for a person who does not have to go to great lengths to get pregnant to say you are bringing a child into this mess, but you will work it out, somehow, some way.
Good Luck!
Hi,
We did 3 cycles of IUI's there's so IVF was next... all we really want is 1 child and I think we can make it work..
HS
Keep your spirits up! We went through 6 cycles of IUI's because our I surname would not cover IVF. It did not work for us,so we went through adoption. 9 months later I got pregnant! If you want it bad enough it will come. Hang in there!
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I totally understand where you are coming from, but don't be so pessimistic about it. It is expensive and it can take a few attempts but it can and does work for many people. We went through hell and back a few times, but finally have our little miracle boy. I can honestly say he was worth every dime of it! If you would like to hear my story please visit www.ivfsuccessstories.info
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