What I really want this year:
An iPad 2 signed by all my friends and family. How cool would that be? I hinted to the wife I wanted one so hopefully she's getting money from everyone. I'm having a small party so maybe I'll get to open one next week :)
As I turn 32 I'm feeling a little lost. We still don't have any children and I told the wife I have no desire to adopt. This is causing a little bit of friction in our relationship. I have this strange constant fear that one day our relationship will end because of this. For now I'm not going to worry about it but it's always in the back of my mind.
My current job and career is also an issue. I really don't know why I'm there or why they want me there. My entire team here came from offshore to learn what we do and take that knowledge back home. I used to run things but now they took over the project, I am no longer included in any meetings or discussions about the work. I'm sure they will let me go soon but it's frustrating that I get comfortable with a job and then India or the Philippines ruins things and I have to do something else. Offshoring is great and I'm sure people like it but as I get older I just feel out of place.
Debt- the reason why I have this blog so keep coming back to see me spend and try to pay it all back. Hopefully next year will be less spending and more paying back
Happy Birthday to me!
HS
18 comments:
Happy Birthday, but I have to say, hinting to your wife about the iPad knowing you are in debt? She will just go out and buy it herself and then have the friends sign it at your birthday party.
Happy Birthday! I will be 32 this year too. Fun.
Perhaps now is the time to go into emergency mode. Do not spend unless absolutely neccesary. Maybe even try living on one income (your wife's) as if you were already laid off. And save your entire paycheck for emergencies for when/if you lose your job.
Work/money can be so stressful, I know I have work until Aug. 31st (watching school age kids for the summer.) But after that I am back to no job/work. It really stresses me out.
Praying you can relax.
If I may ask, what are your issues with adoption? Is it the debt that would be incurred?
Don't even know what to say.
Once again with the "hopefully" comment. Like you think the universe is just going to step in and take care of your debt and your spending at some point and you won't have any control or direction in it.
Until you GROW THE F UP and learn to behave like an adult (which, btw, means not buying in iPad on credit for your birthday while you have $15k in debt), you're never going to know anything any differently.
Honestly your blog is a total train wreck. The only reason I read it is to feel better about myself ... to know that I'm not as stupid and self involved and brainless as you are.
I too wonder why you aren't open to adoption? I think it's an amazing thing and hope to both adopt and have my own kids someday.
Happy birthday!
I don't know if the train is wrecked yet but I'm working on growing up :)
HS
Classy response!
@ Frugal Forties. THANK YOU!
Wow, Frugal Forties...I sometimes question decisions other bloggers make, but if you're going to call someone "brainless" and "stupid" I'd rather not read their blog and certainly not comment.
I think it's okay to question people's choices when they post them for all to read, but name-calling only makes you look bad.
First, Happy Birthday!! Enjoy the day (and the party).
Second, it would be worth spending a bit of time exploring what and why your feelings are towards family. You haven't mentioned any testing, so this may be a simple problem but may not. Better to work with your wife to have that strong roots so you can give them to a child. A couple counseling sessions may help.
Third, we each take so much from our job/career. If you see the writing on the wall, a friend always says it's easier to find a job when you have a job. So, it may be time to dust off that resume and start it circulating. Remember that this is YOUR life, YOUR job, YOUR marriage and for that matter YOUR debt. YOU are the only one with the power to change things. And by the way you DO have the power to change things!!
Good luck & Best Wishes
(BTW I agree that it might be a good time to hold off on an iPad)
Happy almost birthday, old man!
Jeez, I love how people jump down your throat on your comments. I believe you said you wanted your wife to get money from your friends for an iPad, not that you wanted her to buy one, right? :/
Although, you should probably check it out, I think you have to pay a monthly maintenance fee.
By the way, what use is teasing me saying you're number two when you're probably not strong enough to pick me up? LOL
Happy Birthday....but at 32...it is time to get on track and figure out what it is you are doing. Especially if kids may enter the picture.
Also...there are lots of ways to build a family. If adoption isn't for you, there is also surrogacy.
Happy birthday! I just turned 26 a couple months ago and am having some feelings that are similar to yours.
I think you just need a jolt to really get you moving towards your goals. I made a bunch of half-hearted attempts at getting out of debt before I really buckled down, I just didn't chronicle them on a blog as you are. I'm sure if I did I would have been getting some comments very similar to the ones you are getting.
People need to cut you a little slack. You're much better off than someone who is completely unaware that they have a financial problem. You just need to take the final leap and really DEAL with the problem, but I think you'll get there.
As for the kids thing, I'm not really in a place to give any advice. But we're all rooting for you!
Happy Birthday!
Good news is your life isn't falling apart at the hinges.
You need to stop be interested in creating the life you want (a.k.a growing up) and start being committed to your life. This is the only way you will get ahead in any area of life.
“There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”
Stop letting life happen to you and start happening to it!!!!
Everyone,
Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes! I promise a more responsible ME for this next year!!
HS
I hope that promise is to yourself and not us.
Your poor financial decision only impact your future, not ours.
Start with making better decision tomorrow, don't put it off until next year.
So much for a "more responsible you" for the coming year. And people got on me for calling you stupid.
Not only are you stupid, you're going to try to bring a child into your irresponsible LYING lifestyle?
That's not just stupid; it's criminal.
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